cropped-butterfly-2.pngI’m sorry you found my blog.

HA!  What a funny thing to say on a blog!!  But seriously, if you landed here, you either know me, or know someone that has cancer.  That’s why I’m sorry!


I hate that word.

I remember sitting in the oncologist’s office in my early 20’s listening to the Dr. tell me that while it was not likely I would get Ocular Melanoma like my Mom, 3 out of 4 people would be diagnosed with some sort of cancer in their life.  Since all of my Grandparents and my Mom have died of some type of cancer, I knew my day would come.  I just never thought my diagnosis would be the day after my 41st birthday and as a mother of a 10, 7 and 6 year old.

Fast forward 4 years (October 2019) and the cancer has returned in other bones.  So here we are, ready to fight again…and looking to be on some sort of treatment for the rest of my life.

This blog is my journey as I fight to leave cancer behind and move on in my life.

I should probably back up and introduce myself . . . my name is Jennifer.  I’m a Christ follower, married to an amazing man (who happens to be a chef turned Co-CEO of a restaurant), have 3 beautiful daughters and I’ve been diagnosed with Stage IV Breast Cancer which originally spread to my sternum, but has now spread to quite a few other bones as well.

I know it can be confusing when you stumble upon a new blog, so let me help you get started.

  • I have a blog to keep track of my thoughts and to let friends and family know what’s going on.
  • You can get to know our family or read my personal testimony here.
  • As I’ve been going through different procedures, I’ve written down what it was like.  You can find a list of those over in the side bar (or down at the bottom if you are on a mobile device).
  • Click here to receive an email when I publish new posts.
  • And finally, if you noticed above that I’m married to a chef and think that must be the MOST AMAZING THING EVER, click here and browse through my blog about what it’s really like to be married to a chef.  (I love blogging.  Can you tell?)


Here’s what’s going on with me right now . . .

I just want to do normal things with my kids

I’m not asking for much. I just want to be able to go the mall and find summer clothes with my girls. That’s a normal mom thing. Our girls have grown so much the past few months! It’s crazy. Two are in desperate need of clothes and shoes.

We have ordered a ridiculous amount of things online but very few fit. Amazon and the UPS Store must love all our returns. The mall was the next choice.

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Dr. Apt. Today

I had my follow-up with the orthopedic surgeon today. He was glad that the surgery worked but was sad that other parts of my back were still hurting. He recommended getting an MRI done on my lower back now that insurance has approved it. We’re going to do that to see if there’s anything he can do to help it, or if possibly some physical therapy might help. I will call on Monday to schedule the MRI appointment.

Did the surgery work?

I think it did! I don’t have any pain in that part of my back anymore. However, I’m still having pain in my back, just in different spots. I don’t know if by putting the cement in that muscles are being used differently and I’m just having muscle pain, or if it’s something else. I’ll talk to the doctor about it at my appointment on Friday. So for now, I’m on the same amount of pain medicine as before surgery.

Surgery update

Surgery went well today. We checked in at 11 and went over everything. I had a chance to rest for about 30 minutes before the surgeon came in and talked to us. Then they wheeled me away around 1:15.

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Surgery Scheduled

I am scheduled to have surgery on Friday at 1 pm, with an 11 am check-in time. Praise God that the insurance approved it and that I got on the surgeon’s calendar so quickly!

In preparation for that, I have the privilege of getting a COIV-19 test tomorrow. That should be fun. I also have a nurse pre-op call on Wednesday to go over medications for the anesthesiologist. (I will be all the way put to sleep for surgery, which I am thankful for.

Please pray that the week will go smoothly and for Tom and the girls as this affects them as well. Please also pray that the surgery will strengthen my back and that some if not all the pain will be alleviated.

Radiation and Hair Loss

I’ve said before that radiation is the gift that keeps on giving…it works for a long time in your body after you are done going in for treatment. The radiation I had done in early February, made me loose some of the hair on the back of my head. It’s easier to show it with pictures.

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Good News

I spent part of the morning on the phone with the orthopedic surgeon and his office. I didn’t think I would know any results from the MRI to my appointment a week from today. I was so happy to get his phone call this morning.

The MRI shows the one big compression fracture that I know is causing pain, but no other fractures. It also shows cancer in other vertebrae, but we already knew about those.

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Breast Cancer Patient, Chef Wife and Mom

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