cropped-butterfly-2.pngI’m sorry you found my blog.

HA!  What a funny thing to say on a blog!!  But seriously, if you landed here, you either know me, or know someone that has cancer.  That’s why I’m sorry!


I hate that word.

I remember sitting in the oncologist’s office in my early 20’s listening to the Dr. tell me that while it was not likely I would get Ocular Melanoma like my Mom, 3 out of 4 people would be diagnosed with some sort of cancer in their life.  Since all of my Grandparents and my Mom have died of some type of cancer, I knew my day would come.  I just never thought my diagnosis would be the day after my 41st birthday and as a mother of a 10, 7 and 6 year old.

Fast forward 4 years (October 2019) and the cancer has returned in other bones.  So here we are, ready to fight again…and looking to be on some sort of treatment for the rest of my life.

This blog is my journey as I fight to leave cancer behind and move on in my life.

I should probably back up and introduce myself . . . my name is Jennifer.  I’m a Christ follower, married to an amazing man (who happens to be a chef turned COO of a restaurant), have 3 beautiful daughters and I’ve been diagnosed with Stage IV Breast Cancer which originally spread to my sternum, but has now spread to quite a few other bones as well.

I know it can be confusing when you stumble upon a new blog, so let me help you get started.

  • I have a blog to keep track of my thoughts and to let friends and family know what’s going on.
  • You can get to know our family or read my personal testimony here.
  • As I’ve been going through different procedures, I’ve written down what it was like.  You can find a list of those over in the side bar (or down at the bottom if you are on a mobile device).
  • Click here to receive an email when I publish new posts.
  • And finally, if you noticed above that I’m married to a chef and think that must be the MOST AMAZING THING EVER, click here and browse through my blog about what it’s really like to be married to a chef.  (I love blogging.  Can you tell?)


Here’s what’s going on with me right now . . .

Managing Meds

The quantity of pills I take very day is crazy.

  • Verzenio (chemo pill)
  • Omeprazole (heartburn from the chemo pill)
  • Zofran (for nausea from the chemo pill)
  • Stool Softener (constipation from the zofran and pain meds)
  • Psyllium Husk (constipation from the zofran and pain meds)
  • Anti-depressant (for depression from the Faslodex shot)
  • Multi Vitamin
  • Vitamin C
  • Vitamin D
  • Digestive Enzyme
  • Calcium Magnesium
  • Essential Fatty Acid
  • Tylenol with Codeine (for pain as needed)
  • Muscle Relaxer (for back pain)
  • Bennadryl (for itching from the Tylenol with Codeine if I have to take more than a half a pill at a time)
  • Trazadone (to help me sleep)
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Appointment Update

All 3 appointments went well today. Tom is really sick, so he needed to stay home. I went to the infusion center by myself, which was fine. Cortney and Karin came last minute to my Dr. apt. and Tom was on speaker phone. We talked about managing constipation from the meds, trying to stop the zofran as that adds to the problem, taking a break from the anti-inflammatory, weaning off the antidepressant in January now that I am eating enough to take supplements again and taking Tylenol with codeine for back pain. We talked about what healing in my back looks like. Even if we can get rid of the cancer, it will be weak. So no lifting more than about 5 – 10 lbs…for pretty much forever. I will have a bone scan and CT scan in late January to see if the treatment we are doing is working. We also met with the pallative care nurse. She works with patients with chronic and terminal illnesses and helps with pain management and focuses on quality of life. Side effects from the infusion will hit Thursday night. I will be ready with pain meds so I can go to Molly’s first orchestra concert!!

Appointments this week

I’ve definitely turned a corner! I’ve had more energy the past couple days and I think I might be settling into my new normal. I’m still dealing with a few side effects, but I am thankful that the depression is gone and that some of my energy is back. I was able to do some Black Friday shopping with the girls on Friday and we went on a family date to see Frozen 2 yesterday. I stood the entire time of worship during church this morning as well. Still no where close to what I was doing a few months ago, but progress!!

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Happy Thanksgiving

It’s been a while…sorry for the lack of updates. I’ve been hesitant to write a post as I don’t want to come across as complaining. I also know my brain is in a bit of a fog and I’m not sure how coherent a post would have been a few days ago. 🙂 My brain has started to work again (off and on) and I have been able to get out of the house a little bit, although it makes me a little anxious. Home is just the most comfortable place to be right now.

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Well, wish I had some fabulous news…but still struggling with some big side effects.

I met with my oncologist yesterday when I was at the infusion center. He prescribed an antidepressant and also a steroid to help give me energy and try to stimulate my appetite. The steroid works right away. The antidepressant in 2-4 weeks.

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I can eat again

I took 5ml of the oxycodone this morning and that’s it! I’ve been able to eat and drink all day. I’m not eating much, but it’s still progress. The Dr. said I would wake up one morning and it would be significantly better and I guess today was the day!

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Breast Cancer Patient, Chef Wife and Mom

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