cropped-butterfly-2.pngI’m sorry you found my blog.

HA!  What a funny thing to say on a blog!!  But seriously, if you landed here, you either know me, or know someone that has cancer.  That’s why I’m sorry!


I hate that word.

I remember sitting in the oncologist’s office in my early 20’s listening to the Dr. tell me that while it was not likely I would get Ocular Melanoma like my Mom, 3 out of 4 people would be diagnosed with some sort of cancer in their life.  Since all of my Grandparents and my Mom have died of some type of cancer, I knew my day would come.  I just never thought my diagnosis would be the day after my 41st birthday and as a mother of a 10, 7 and 6 year old.

Fast forward 4 years (October 2019) and the cancer has returned in other bones.  So here we are, ready to fight again…and looking to be on some sort of treatment for the rest of my life.

This blog is my journey as I fight to leave cancer behind and move on in my life.

I should probably back up and introduce myself . . . my name is Jennifer.  I’m a Christ follower, married to an amazing man (who happens to be a chef turned Co-CEO of a restaurant), have 3 beautiful daughters and I’ve been diagnosed with Stage IV Breast Cancer which originally spread to my sternum, but has now spread to quite a few other bones  and one of my lungs as well.

I know it can be confusing when you stumble upon a new blog, so let me help you get started.

  • I have a blog to keep track of my thoughts and to let friends and family know what’s going on.
  • You can get to know our family or read my personal testimony here.
  • As I’ve been going through different procedures, I’ve written down what it was like.  You can find a list of those over in the side bar (or down at the bottom if you are on a mobile device).
  • Click here to receive an email when I publish new posts.
  • And finally, if you noticed above that I’m married to a chef and think that must be the MOST AMAZING THING EVER, click here and browse through my blog about what it’s really like to be married to a chef.  (I love blogging.  Can you tell?)


Here’s what’s going on with me right now . . .

Bone Scan Comparisons

When I did my bone scan last week, we knew that we would see a lot of growth when we compared it to the previous one from October 2019. So looking at the scans side by side, I can see 15 months worth of growth while on active treatment.

Even with that knowledge going in, it was still very hard to look at the images and see how many of my bones have active cancer in them. And it’s crazy to see how much growth there has been knowing I was on chemo the entire 15 months. Clearly the chemo was not working the majority of the time, which we already knew.

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Showers and Neuropathy

I have not taken a regular shower since the 19th of November, when they put in my pleurx catheter, so we could drain the fluid from around my lung at home. I have taken partial showers and wiped off with rags and wipes, but I really miss being able to take a regular shower.

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Asking Questions and Getting Answers

Valley Medical recently changed how they release test results.  They used to go to the Dr. first and then the Dr. would release them.  They now release them to us both at the same time. 

After my bone scan,  I had the radiologist’s results within a few hours.  The results are like a foreign language sometimes and we Google a lot of words to figure out test results. Then the oncologist clarifies things we can’t figure out.

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Puppy Love

I’ll admit, I always thought it was a little strange how people felt like their dogs were like a child and a member of their family. We always had dogs when I was growing up and I never felt that way. But they were outdoor dogs and never allowed in the house. Maybe that is the difference. Now I get it. We have had Oliver about two weeks now and we just adore him.

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It’s Not Fair

I was browsing through social media today and was reading a post of an author I follow.  She is just getting over COVID. She was describing how she felt for the past 2 weeks and was so thankful to be feeling better.  I am so happy for her and am thankful she could deal with it at home and didn’t have to go to the ER.

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Happy New Year

Happy New Year everyone. I hope you have all gotten back into your routines with work and school or whatever you do during the day. The girls started school up again today and Tom went back to work in the garage. I went to chemo and then came home and rested.

We had originally planned to go to California and see family for Christmas. However, I was too weak to travel. Instead, Tom’s parents and my two nieces and nephew came up for a week after Christmas. It was so nice to see them and we especially loved having them here on New Year’s Eve.

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Merry Christmas

Merry Christmas from our family to yours. We got going with breakfast and stockings around 10 am and had a relaxing day in our matching PJs that we opened last night. While I’m not feeling the greatest, I’m thankful to be able to be out of bed to see my family. And I’m thankful for a week off of chemo this coming week.

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Meet Jennifer

Breast Cancer Patient, Chef Wife and Mom

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